We're not inclined to make a change in our life if we are complacent. Often times, real change comes when we are dissatisfied with the way things are. Have you ever seen a group of picketers with signs that say, "Our pay is adequate”? Of course not! People go on strike when they have become so dissatisfied with some level of employment that they join the picket line.
Sometimes we have to reach a point of dissatisfaction that makes us ready for change. Dissatisfaction leads to change. Complacency on the other hand is dangerous. It keeps us places that are not safe.
Dictionary.com defines complacency as: a feeling of quiet pleasure or security, often while unaware of some potential danger.
Do you ever think of becoming more? Or are you just satisfied enough to stay where you are? That is the danger of complacency. It robs us of vision… for a better future, for a better life. While the life that awaits us passes by, a life that deprives us of memories swallows us up.
This may sound crazy but if you want to be happier you need to start being dissatisfied with where you are. Acknowledge that good enough is no longer good enough. Turn your good enough into great.
Warning: Video in this story contains graphic scenes
I was once posed this question in an ethics class in seminary. If an Olympic swimmer sees a child drowning in a pool and does nothing, is he or she liable of a crime? The answer to that question was no. There was no law (15 years ago) that required us to offer help to another.
Now for a real life example.
In 1964 Kitty Genovese was attacked late at night in front of her building in Queens, New York. She was stabbed repeatedly and raped. She died as a result of her injuries. How people responded has been a dispute since that fateful night. There were multiple witnesses but few people called the police. Some said they thought it was a lovers’ quarrel, others claimed not to hear the attack because it was cold and their windows were closed. Regardless, her death led to psychological studies of human behavior. Those studies resulted in what we call the bystander effect. Put briefly, this phenomena states that the more people there are to help in a situation, the less likely someone will in fact offer assistance. The reasons for this vary. With so many people around, the thought is surely someone else must have called for help. Or perhaps someone else is better qualified than me. Then there’s the ultimate, I don’t want to get involved.
The bystander effect. Bystanders don’t get involved. They watch. They avoid. They wait for someone else to do something. They think, “Why isn’t anyone doing anything?”
Flash forward to 2011. Remove yourself from the streets of New York and place yourself in the small, but active alley in the southern Guyangdong province of China. Instead of a 28 year old woman walking from her car to her apartment, picture a 2 year old toddling in front of a van.
Wang Yue, or Yueyue for short was run over by two vans in an alley and lay dying while 18 bystanders ignored her. Some walked past while others drove by, some on scooters. She was disregarded. People stopped to look or swerved to drive around her. It wasn’t until trash collector Chen Xianmei, 57, an illiterate migrant from the countryside saw her that Yueyue received help. Her rescuer pulled her from the middle of the road and called for the girl’s mother who had been hanging laundry at the time the accident happened.
A security camera filmed the entire incident. The video went viral in China and people are calling the tragedy, “the death that awakened the conscience of China.”
The video of the entire incident is below. Warning, it is violent and disturbing.
Did Yueyue have no neighbors to help? Eighteen people walked by until someone worthy to be called her neighbor lent a hand.
Jesus was once asked, “Who is your neighbor?” The answer came in the form of a parable that is eerily similar to the stories of Kitty Genovese and Yueyue.
A man is beaten and left by the side of a road to die. Travelers who followed kept their distance. Two men walked past the victim. They continued without helping but a third man stopped. He helped the beaten man. He tended to his injuries. He took him to a hotel where he paid for the man’s stay until he healed. The irony of this story is that the first two were men of God and the third a hated enemy of the victim. (Think Israeli and Palestinian.)
What do you do when you see someone in need? Do you walk by and thank God it’s not you? Do you turn around and walk away, afraid of the scene before you?
Is it our duty to put ourselves in harm’s way in order to help a stranger? Or should it be illegal to avoid helping another when we can do so at no risk to our own safety? Those answers will always be debated.
Regardless of the answers, I am convinced of this. A neighbor will provide help to the helpless, regardless of race, religion, background, or anything else.
In response to the toddler’s death in China, government officials, members of the Communist Party, lawyers and social workers met for three days to discuss how to respond. Some lawyers are trying to draft “Good Samaritan” legislation to protect those who attempt to help and penalize others who deny it.
According to a quote in the LA Times, Zhu Yongping, one lawyer who attended the meetings said, "People are really shocked. Some were crying. We couldn't imagine that moral values have declined so much.”
That’s because of the first 18 people who walked by, none were neighbors, they were mere bystanders. Bystanders do nothing. Bystanders don’t need morals. Morality requires action.
A Muslim man showed up at the White house to pray. According to an officer in the area, he shows up every couple of days. About a week ago, he showed up about the same time an anti-Sharia protest was beginning to disperse.
As he prayed, straggling protesters used the name of Jesus to ridicule this man. They mocked him for drinking coffee. They threw tiny crosses on the ground at his feet so when he knelt to pray, they claimed he was kneeling before Christ. They shouted at him to go back to his country. They ridiculed him for his faith.
I’m curious, does shouting insults at someone encourage them to know Jesus Christ? Does that approach really work? Did these “Christians” truly expect this man to respond by denying his own faith and converting to Christianity because he was being ridiculed? Or were they just spewing hate?
Hmm, maybe the next time I think about inviting someone to church I’ll yell at them, mock them, tell them what they believe is ridiculous and get in their face and scream insults. I wonder if that would work better than saying, “My church is doing a sermon series on loving your neighbor, since I live next door, I thought you might want to come. By the way, we serve donuts. Interested?”
When a teenager comes to me for advice and says, “I like a girl and I want to ask her to the dance, how should I go about it?” should my answer be, “Tell her she is worthless. Scream at her. Tell her the god she worships is the devil. Mock her for her beliefs. And then ask her what time she wants you to pick her up.”?
Jesus said, "But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you” – Luke 6:27
Gandhi said, “I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ. “
MadPastor says, “I want to love my enemies as Christ commanded. I want to be more like Jesus. I know I fall short of being Christ-like. I’m pretty sure verbal bashing others isn’t a good place to start.”
How should we love our enemies? How should Christians, in the name of Jesus Christ, treat this Muslim man?